Dear Reader,

Happiness is a seemingly simple feeling, but the pursuit of happiness often feels like a complex endeavor.

We make hundreds, if not thousands, of choices every day in the pursuit of happiness– from what we choose to wear and eat today, to studying hard at school to guarantee an easier life in the future. Many people often feel they are doing so much to be happy.

So why does it feel so difficult to attain?

Japanese culture has not figured out happiness, but perhaps its attitude toward happiness can guide us to a place that feels closer.

The Japanese nuance for happiness

The Japanese word for happiness is ‘shiawase’ (幸せ), but it is slightly different from American ‘happiness’.

Shiawase isn’t used to describe pure pleasure, but carries connotations of satisfaction, contentment, and peace. It’s a contemplative feeling, one that is not just felt but often self-observed.

The word shiawase (listen to the pronunciation if you’re curious) comes from the phrase ‘nashi awaseru’ which is not a noun, but the verb “act together”.

In this way, happiness was historically understood not as a state of being, but an action– to find happiness is not just feeling happy, but it’s an experience with someone or something else.​

Nashi (為し): Act, do

Awaseru (合わせる): Put together, match

Nashiawaseru (為し合わせる): Act together

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To experience shiawase we must feel gratitude for someone or something else– to feel shiawase is to feel thankful: How did I get so lucky to spend time with these wonderful people, in this wonderful environment?

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Ahh… I am so lucky, I am shiawase.

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If you feel that your pursuit of happiness has felt less like a journey, and more like running in fruitless circles, perhaps it could make sense to slow down for a moment. Instead of looking to the future, or longing for the past, try identifying what you can do now to feel connected with someone or something else.

Perhaps it’s calling a family member, making plans to see a friend, tending to your garden (both literal or hypothetical), or just counting things you’re grateful for. We feel peace when we feel connected.

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​In what moments do you find yourself feeling shiawase?​
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Warmly,

Kaki

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