Dear Reader,

What do you think my reaction was when I received this marketing email from a telehealth provider?

With the fall/winter holidays upon us, I want to take a moment to address the “holiday healthy eating tips” that we will also inevitably start receiving — how to limit sugary candy, skip the Thanksgiving pumpkin pie dessert for a healthy alternative, or why you should choose low-fat ice cream instead of your mom’s homemade one.

While probably well-intentioned, these messages that demonize sugar or fat can be stressful. It’s no wonder, because we are being told to avoid and limit the exact celebratory desserts and decadent meals that make the holidays so enjoyable for many of us.

When really all I want to be doing is getting excited about the fact that it's October and I have so many holidays and fun events to look forward to!

Moving on from “eat this, not that”

Sugar is not the healthiest thing, but this is probably not news to you. We’ve been lectured the dangers of it, why it’s “bad”, and why we should be limiting (if not completely eliminating) it from our diet.

Why not just quit it?

But what this advice doesn’t acknowledge is that we are human — we enjoy cakes to celebrate birthdays, and get together with our family to bake holiday cookies. We enjoy apple cider donuts at fall farmer’s markets, and make it an event to enjoy pumpkin and pecan pie.

Demonizing sugar only does one of two things:

1. If we choose to deprive ourselves of these special moments with our loved ones, we lose a part of what brings us joy, and potentially our cultural identity and tradition.
2. If we choose to prioritize enjoying these moments and indulge in desserts, we inevitably feel awful for it and blame ourselves for not having self-control.

This can result in a kind of self-hatred, where we end up reinforcing our shame. Counterintuitively, what could've been a memorable slice of cake at a party can become a guilty binge that evening.

So while we should practice moderation and well-balanced meals for 80% of our meals, the other 20% — reserved for holidays, special occasions, and fun times with family and friends — don’t sweat the small stuff.

Your body will be fine. There’s no need to “ghost” any food group this season.

Enjoy the holidays, for that's also an important part of living well.

Warmly,

Kaki

If you want additional guided support on navigating sugar...

• ​How to stop placing taboos on certain foods​
• ​Why we should focus on our principles, rather than what to eat/not to eat​
• Email me! What has been most challenging for you? 📝

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